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    Confession: Words often have the ability to make or break my mood.

    My primary love language is words of affirmation.  I love compliments {sincere ones, of course}, I love chatting with people, connecting with others through spoken & written word, reading amazing books filled with incredible words, quotes, speaking love into those around me, and sending notes of well thought out words to people I love.  Words are POWERFUL. 

    They tend to stick with us. 

    Although we all heard the old adage, “sticks & stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” we all know it’s garbage.  Words CAN hurt.  They CAN also lift us up.  A well timed uplifting gift of encouragement through words can brighten someone’s darkest days as much as an ill timed snippy/crude/sarcastic comment can darken someone else’s. 

    Two specific examples have been on my mind lately.
    1. A cousin of mine {who is & always has been extremely thin} called me chubby, fat, fatty, etc. almost daily on the bus to & from school when I was in Elementary school. {Crazily enough I was probably totally average in comparison to most kids-he was just super thin!}

    2. Throughout high school I had a friend who had the same first AND last name as me {different spellings on both counts} and instead of separating us by the first letter in our name “Karli with a K, or Carly with a C,” they called us “big Karli” and “little Carly.”  Guess which one I was?  How awesome it was {n’t} to be called to the office over the intercom for a phone call or to grab something as “big Karli.”  I was taller, but also heavier, so the word encompassed both meanings. 

    Although I’m older and thankfully had A LOT of encouraging words spoken to me by my parents, siblings, other friends & family members, teachers & mentors, etc., those words have stuck with me all this time.  That cousin is now a fantastic husband and father and I don’t hold those things against him.  He was a kid.  I know he wasn’t thinking then that the words he was saying would affect me for years to come.  Just like I know the well intentioned people at school weren’t thinking about what that title meant. 

    I read a book about a year ago that has stuck with me.  The Four Agreements, by Miguel Ruiz.  A phenomenal read.  It was life changing for me in its truth & simplicity.  Recognizing & being aware of the four agreements has been critical in my self improvement and growth in the past year.  It has impacted my role as a wife, mother, friend, child of God.  I can’t recommend it highly enough.  The first agreement just happens to be “Be Impeccable with Your Word.”  Read the book.  You won’t be sorry.  Then come share your experiences & thoughts with me!impeccablewithyourwordI challenge you to go out & speak love into someone’s life today.  It may be JUST what they need.

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2 Responses to Bite your Tongue

  • amber fischer wrote on March 4, 2014 at 2:16 // Reply

    Ooooooooh, now I have to read that book! xo

  • Luckie wrote on March 4, 2014 at 6:53 // Reply

    Karli – thanks so much for visiting & sharing the amazing Agreement #1! Such beautiful, transformative charges for us all to live by!:)


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